Keep Calm and Strap On: The Best Sex Toys for Couples, From Vibrators to Handcuffs
MANY OF US assume that sex toys are used for solo pleasure only, but there are plenty of sex toys for couples to help both you and your partner achieve deeper sensations and stimulation during both foreplay and sex.
Research has shown that sex toys are now less taboo and more popular than ever before and a 2016 study even showed that couples that use sex toys together show higher levels of satisfaction within their relationship. But, with so many different kinds of sex toys and sex toy brands out there, the hunt for the ‘right’ toy can sometimes seem overwhelming. To make it easier for you, we’ve outlined just what you need to look for in your next couple’s sex toy.
What are the Best Sex Toys for Couples?
There’s a wide variety of options out there when it comes to the best sex toys for couples, and it all depends on what you’re looking for. If you’re just starting out, consider experimenting with a couple of beginner’s vibrators. For those of you looking to dip your toes into BDSM, we’ve also listed out bondage gear that’s easy to get into (no pun intended). And if you’re in a long-distance relationship, there are even sex toys for couples that can function through an app, helping you stay connected.
Whatever you’re looking for, keep on reading to discover the best sex toys for couples to use in the bedroom (or out of the bedroom) right now.
1. Dame Fin
Touch your partner with added intensity with the Dame Fin. This finger vibrator fits between your fingers, and there’s even a removable tether in case you want this couple’s sex toy to stay in place.
This couples vibrator is water-resistant and has three speeds for just the right amount of pressure. Ask your partner what feels good as you stroke this vibrator across their body, and adjust accordingly. If your partner is away, you can also use the Dane Fin on yourself. Hold this sex toy as you please and use either the pointy or squishy side to massage your vulva and clitoris, depending on what kind of sensation you’re looking for.
2. Dame Eva
Many women have trouble climaxing through penetrative sex and that’s where the Dame Eva comes in. It’s a totally hands-free clitoral vibrator that fits snuggly under your or your partner’s labia. You won’t have to worry about moving or adjusting it once it’s set, which keeps your hands free to roam over your partner’s body and makes it easier for your partner to orgasm during penetrative sex.
The brand claims it only needs the help of a single finger to stay in place while you try out more adventurous positions, so you never have to worry about it falling out.
3. Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo
The Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo is a sex toy worn by the male, although it offers stimulation for both partners. First, set this couple’s sex toy over you or your significant other’s erection, then, perform penetrative sex on your partner. The vibrating base of the toy will not just provide you with pleasure, but will also let your partner feel the vibrations against their erogenous zones.
You’ll get a small remote control too, allowing you to control this vibrator without worrying about on-toy controls. Plus, there are six vibration settings and a waterproof build, so you can “play” with this couple’s sex toy anywhere you want.
4. Yoni Pleasure Palace Squirt Blanket
Sex can get messy and it’s a hassle having to change your sheets every time you get sexual fluids on them. Luckily for you (and your partners), Yoni Pleasure Palace makes a waterproof squirt blanket that will keep the mess off your bedding.
These leakproof blankets can hold up to a liter of liquid, according to the brand, and are not just good for bodily fluids but also great for massage oils and lube. It’s easy to clean too and can be machine-washed and dried without any issues — just make sure to follow the care instructions from the brand. Each purchase also comes with a free bleeding blanket for stain-free period sex.
5. Lelo Tiani
The Tiani offers dual stimulation with a small end that can be inserted inside the vagina and the wider end which rests on the clit. Lelo suggests setting this couple’s sex toy inside your partner before penetrative sex for a more intense orgasm.
The vibrations won’t just tease your partner — they’ll tease you too. This couples sex toy can also be used during foreplay, a better option if you’re both beginners learning your way around your new vibrator.
There are eight pleasure settings and the brand claims it’s whisper quiet and discreet, making this a great choice for travel.
6. Bondage Boutique Under Mattress Restraint
A good pair of restraints is hard to find, especially if you want to lock your partner onto your bed, 50 Shades-style. This under-the-bed restraint is just what you need, so you can restrain your partner’s wrists and ankles and safely explore your bondage limits.
The fastenings use velcro, which means you can easily adjust the fit on your partner’s body, and the connecting straps can extend to as much as four feet, fitting most beds. Plus, since the straps are fully adjustable you can try multiple different bondage techniques and positions once you and your partner get more comfortable.
7. Dame Pillo
A pillow as a sex toy for couples might sound mundane and boring, but let us tell you that it’s necessary.
The Dame Pillo is comfy and soft and offers the perfect ‘lift’ for certain sex positions. Whether you’re lying on your back or stomach, or need just a little extra support for your lower back, the Dame Pillo can help you achieve just that.
Plus, since it looks like a normal pillow, you can seamlessly blend it into your bedroom furniture and use it for naptime when it’s not otherwise in ‘use.’ It’s got a waster resistant liner too just in case you’re using lube, and since the Pillo is washable you’ll never have to worry about dirt or stains.
8. Je Joue Mio
Cock rings are a fun way to intensify both male and female pleasure. This one from Je Jeou fits around your or your partner’s erection and uses low-frequency vibrations creating a “deep rumble” that travels down the length of the shaft to enhance vaginal or clitoral stimulation.
Place this cock ring either with the vibrating base facing upwards or downwards — place it upwards so it can connect with your partner during sex. There are five vibrating patterns and five different speeds and since it’s got a silicone exterior you can use it during shower sex or in the bath.
9. OhMiBod Club Vibe
If you and your partner want to have a little fun (safely) in public, a good pair of vibrating panties is a must. This pair from OhMiBod comes with a remote control for manual use but you can also use it hands-free, allowing this sex toy to automatically vibrate to the sound of club music or your lover’s voice.
You’ll even get a black lace thong with a small privacy pouch where you can place your new couple’s sex toy. Then, hand the remote to your partner before heading out the door. There are five intensity settings and the vibrator lasts a full four hours on a single charge according to the brand, enough to last through dinner at your favorite restaurant or at that rave you’ve got tickets for.
10. We-Vibe Sync
Another great couple’s vibrator that stimulates the clit, G-spot and penis is the We-vibe Sync. It’s completely hands-free — just insert it into yourself or your partner during foreplay or right before penetration and let your new couple’s sex toy do the rest.
It’s waterproof, can be controlled via remote, is adjustable and features 10 vibration modes for personalized stimulation. You can even use the We-Connect app so your partner can control this vibrator from wherever they are — great for long-distance couples. Plus, with the beat mode, your new sex toy will vibe to your favorite songs.
11. Tether (Bondage Tape)
Bondage with tape might sound hot but if not done properly, it can be extremely painful. That’s where Tether comes in, a skin-friendly bondage tape that sticks to itself rather than your skin.
It’s made with PVC and it’s good for beginners experimenting with BDSM or seasoned S&M lovers. There’s a decent amount of tape in each roll too, so you’ll be able to use it over and over again.
Use it by itself or with a blindfold for a more intense sensory experience.